Marriage Mentor Guides

How Guides Work
How Guides Work

 

The Marriage Mentoring Triad:

Preparing

A couple preparing to marry or newly married are in the very beginning stages of a lifelong love relationship.  When a mentor couple comes alongside a couple preparing for marriage or newly married, they have the opportunity to cultivate positive habits right from the start that will benefit this young couple for decades.

There are many predictable issues for engaged and newlywed couples as they establish roles, deal with conflict, handle money, develop sexual intimacy and decide how they will celebrate family holidays and create family traditions.

When another more experienced married couple comes alongside a less experienced couple; and is able to normalize predictable issues, this relationship has the ability to lighten the load and give hope to the younger couple for their relationship to endure.

"Therefore, a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife.  They become one flesh."  Genesis 2:24

Maximizing

Marriages that are doing well need mentors, too.  We would like to see every church building up marriage relationships as a regular practice.  Couples that are doing well have the potential of doing great. 

Ask any couple who is sailing along pretty well in their marriage what is keeping them from getting to the next level and they will state their desire for 1) better communication or 2) more time together.  Getting intentional in a mentoring relationship can help reveal some ways to improve an already good marriage.

"We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well."  1 Thessalonians 2:8 

Repairing

This piece of the mentoring triad incorporates couples who are in crisis and possibly even teetering on the brink of divorce.

Have you suffered a personal crisis in your own marriage?  Has your good marriage bumped head-first into something bad?  If so, your story and your life may be a powerful marriage mentoring tool for helping couples in distress.

With the hope and encouragement of a mentor couple who has gone through a similar crisis and found deeper intimacy on the other side, they are now able to help another couple find their way through the abyss.

"God of all healing and Counsel!  He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, He brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us." 2 Corinthians 1:4

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