Effective mentor couples eventually recognize how much they
receive from the couples they mentor. The wisdom of your mentorees,
perhaps so different from your own, will complement and clarify your
own understanding of marriage.
You will also be refreshed by this relationship. Mentoring will
rejuvenate your marriage with the energy of youth. Almost by osmosis,
the excitement of a blooming, or recovering, marriage in the couple you
care about will begin to rub off on you.
And perhaps the most common aspect of the boomerang effect is
satisfaction. As mentors, you will enjoy the satisfaction of work will
done. When a married couple successfully works on any project together
– whether wallpapering a room, raking autumn leaves, or planting a
garden – a sense of satisfaction results. And how much more so when the
project has lasting value!
Here are a few of the many, many responses we’ve received from mentor couples about their experiences:
Mentoring another couple causes us to talk about our own
marriage more than we ever have before. We are enjoying some of the
best conversations we’ve ever had because of it.
We’ve been mentoring couples on the brink of divorce and since
we’ve been there ourselves, we have a good idea of what they are
experiencing. This experience renews our own commitment and makes us
count our blessings, never taking our personal progress for granted.
We also think of our mentoring session like a date night. Not
that we aren’t doing serious work, but we typically feel like the
batteries in our own marriage were recharged as a result of our
mentoring.
The boomerang effect of marriage mentoring is significant. When
you do good for another couple you’re almost sure to receive more good
in return!
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